I guess you could say I am a corporate being. It is where I feel comfortable.
I like the rules within the corporate environment.
My job in corporate was in the finance department of a medical marketing company. I was the person who analysed the company finances so the business was aware what revenue could be recognised. As a NASDAQ listed company, it was crucial to the share price this analysis was right.
Being Unemotional was the Most Caring Thing I Could do.
I knew any issue that held up revenue recognition could affect the bottom line and it was my job to solve that issue. Staff absenteeism and the departure of key employees, played a major role in projects losing momentum. As much as I personally cared about what people were going through, professionally I cared about the numbers. The reason I cared about the numbers, was I knew the company’s finances affected everyone, not just the person who was absent. They had mortgages or rent to pay, bills, debts, and other loans – so my being a badass when it came to keeping projects on track mattered to everyone.
As a survivor of domestic violence and with the passing of time, I can now see that I was part of the financial burden to my company because some days, there was absenteeism and someone else would have to finalise the figures without my insight and knowledge. This would have impacted the share price.
The consequences of my absenteeism were somewhat negated, by the fact that I had a boss whom I had disclosed to about my situation and we could communicate openly. This meant I was in the loop, even when physically being at work that day, was not an option.
Time to Analyse and Research and Learn
I am thankful for my years in corporate because it made me very disinterested in who did what to whom and instead left me with a solution focused attitude to both work and my life. So when I acknowledged that I, myself was in a domestic violence relationship, isolated to the point of having practically no support system in place. I used that solutions focused approach to understand why I had arrived at that point and rebuild my life from a place of understanding.
I spent years working on my own recovery and learning all I could about domestic violence, because I knew knowledge was power.
Dig Deep and Run
This understanding led me to find another of my passions – marathon running. I was so proud when in 2008 I completed the 42.195km Sydney Marathon. As any marathon runner will tell you, the race is a long game and you have to find the strength to push through those tough moments when all you want to do is give up, but by pacing yourself and persisting and crossing the finish line, ultimately it is so worth it.
The highlight of my marathon running so far, came in 2013. When I completed the New York Marathon. Running in New York was exhilarating and finishing this race meant so much, as I raised funds for The Black Dog Institute, for whom I was a Speaker and Presenter.
To get to where I am today, has not been an easy journey, but I feel honoured these three defining elements of my life have led me to what I am doing now.
Domestic Violence Workplace Solutions would have mitigated the impact of my situation.
I look back and realise the difference it would have made to me, my boss and the company I worked for, if there was a company culture of empathy and understanding. Along with appropriate policies, procedures and training programs, when I disclosed about my own violent relationship. Not only would it have made a positive impact on my own life. Much of the financial impact on the company, due to the circumstances of my home life, would have been mitigated.
I am proud of all that I know and understand.
My Corporate experience, my marathon running and all I have learned about domestic violence over the last eleven years has culminated a set of skills that made it possible for me to develop strategies and solutions to assist organisations address company culture, the financial and human cost of Domestic Violence.
One of the significant costs of domestic violence in my life was the loss of my corporate career. It was a love affair that wasn’t over. So now I am back because I know I have the solution to an issue that corporates acknowledge is impacting them both financially and in the culture of the company.
When it comes to breaking the code of silence around domestic violence big steps have been taken, but we still have a long way to go – but that’s ok, after all I’m a marathon runner.