One of the things I am passionate about is reducing the numbers of times it takes someone to leave an abusive relationship. Every time someone returns the negative impact grows. Understanding the complexities of domestic violence is difficult but when you are inside of an abusive relationship it is even harder.

This week I am sharing an article from Two Good Co about why it takes seven time to leave.

‘Why does it take?  Seven times

We’ve heard it takes on average seven attempts to leave a domestic violence relationship (i). The majority of domestic violence murders committed by abusive partners occur after an attempt to terminate the abusive relationship (ii).

Could you image the social impact we would create if we were able to reduce the average number of attempts to just six?

There’s a myriad of reasons why someone returns to an abusive partner. To try and solve this problem we started researching. Martin et al. (2000) recognised that difficulties in relocation, legal issues, sharing child custody, termination of the emotional connection with the abuser, and disrupted social networks, placed the victim at higher risk of returning to the relationship.

Patzel (2006) reported that fear of being alone and a lack of support from family and friends reduced a woman’s ability to leave the relationship. Griffith et al. (2016) states the number one reason for returning to a domestic violence abuser is emotional attachment.

There are many factors we cannot influence, but there are also factors we absolutely can!

Chang et al. (2010) found that one of the most important factors that led women to successfully leave their abusers was the realisation they had access to resources and support from others.

Our SOLUTION is to increase the resources offered to domestic violence survivors through our EMPLOYMENT, EMPOWERMENT and community ENGAGEMENT programs. We have lots of work to do, but after some extensive research and discussion with service providers, we are up for the challenge.’ …Article supplied by Two Good Co

Support and resources are essential and with community projects like Two Good along with Government and employers we really can help reduce the seven, and in doing so reduce the risk to the victims of domestic violence and their children.

Awareness and action change lives for the better which is why I support Two Good Co. If you would like to support them too contact them at:

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ii: (Pagelow, 1984; Walker & Meloy, 1998).

Lisa McAdams

About Lisa: Lisa McAdams is a domestic violence strategist and solutions consultant who through her company Lead the Way implements domestic violence workplace solutions into businesses.

It has been said, you need at least 10,000 hours experience to become an expert in something. And with over 390,000 hours lived experience of abuse, over 100,000 hours working in corporate and over 80,000 hours learning and researching the consequences and outcomes of domestic violence and how to solve these issues, Lisa really can lay claim to being one of the leading experts in her field.

Lisa is considered a thought leader in the space of domestic violence workplace solutions for the comprehensive policies and training packages she implements into corporate businesses. But also for her blogs, podcast and as a media commentator.

Lisa knows corporates and domestic violence and has combined these two areas of expertise to help corporates implement the policies and training to support staff, improve company culture whilst at the same time improving productivity and profitability.

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