My past is undeniable and I am open about what I have been subjected to in my life. My business is all about educating businesses and individuals about the impact, strategies and solutions to domestic violence. I love my work it is my passion to share this knowledge base I have.
We all get labelled
We all get labelled and the way we see ourselves is not necessarily how others see us. People often use the term ‘survivor of abuse’ to describe me. It is the label I get, now I am no longer seen as a victim. I know that it is meant as a compliment. But it does not represent who I am, what I love or my dreams. It is simply a statement of the fact that life handed me a tough hand as a victim of abuse. I lived it, I won and I have moved on. Of course being a victim and a survivor are a huge part of my story, and I am proud of the courage strength and wisdom it took to heal.
Abuse is not the only thing I survived
There are so many other things about me that I think are just as interesting. Like the fact I fell head first through a glass patio table and nearly nearly died. Whilst still in the safe house after leaving the refuge. I was told I would be lucky to walk again. Running a marathon was not a dream I was about to give up on. And I proud to say that less than two years after my accident I finished the Sydney marathon.
I have lot’s of labels
I am a mother, friend, consultant, educator, writer, runner, business owner, English, Australian and so much more. I am happy, sad and all the emotions in between. Those that know me well would describe me as funny. Maybe my experiences made me funny. I would not give up being funny, the power to make people laugh is a gift. If I labelled myself I would choose funny: Smart and funny!
I am not broken
I am not damaged or broken. I have worked hard to heal. I have had an amazing life full of amazing wins and devastating losses. I have walked away from all my family so I could start again, the empty space left behind in life and heart and it hurts and I imagine it will be sore for the rest of my life. But by far the biggest hurt is when people don’t see all of me just the victim and survivor roles.
Moments to remember
And I proud to say I did run New York and raised funds and awareness for The Black Dog Institute. I come alive when I think about it, it makes me buzz. Life is made up of moments and although a great deal of mine have been painful. One of my favourites would be in the New York City Marathon. I turned the corner to a well dressed man standing in front of a steel band waving is white gloved hands. He looked me in the eye and said ‘Welcome to Harlem’ Mid race I stopped took a moment, looked up at the sky and said to myself ‘I love my life’ Now there’s a moment to remember.
I have moved past being survivor. Surviving was something I did, not who I am.
It has been said, you need at least 10,000 hours experience to become an expert in something. And with over 390,000 hours lived experience of abuse, over 100,000 hours working in corporate and over 80,000 hours learning and researching the consequences and outcomes of domestic violence and how to solve these issues, Lisa really can lay claim to being one of the leading experts in her field.
Lisa is considered a thought leader in the space of domestic violence workplace solutions for the comprehensive policies and training packages she implements into corporate businesses. But also for her blogs, podcast and as a media commentator.
Lisa knows corporates and domestic violence and has combined these two areas of expertise to help corporates implement the policies and training to support staff, improve company culture whilst at the same time improving productivity and profitability.
Latest posts by Lisa McAdams (see all)
- Listening with knowledge and empathy. - July 19, 2017
- So, what does constitute physical abuse? - June 7, 2017
- Domestic violence – 3 things to do when someone discloses in the workplace - May 3, 2017